Game in the Brain

In today’s digital age, the power of social media is undeniable. It has transformed the way we communicate, share information, and even the way we build and manage communities. However, with this power comes a set of challenges that we must navigate carefully, particularly when it comes to community building in shared living spaces like condominiums.

One of the most potent challenges is the allure of social media validation and the preference for drama over steady, meticulous work. It’s easy to get caught up in the instant gratification that comes from airing grievances publicly, stirring up outrage, and receiving validation from others who share our frustrations. This ‘Outrage Engine’ can be incredibly seductive, but it’s worth asking: Is this the kind of community we want to build?

The reality of managing shared living spaces involves a lot of behind-the-scenes work: documentation, negotiations, and working within constraints and scarcity to remedy problems. It’s not glamorous, and it doesn’t provide the immediate satisfaction that a fiery social media post might. But it’s necessary, and it’s how real, lasting solutions are found.

Sometimes, there’s a belief that a strongly worded post or a legal threat can command immediate action, even when the problem at hand is complex and requires careful consideration. This can lead to unrealistic expectations and, ultimately, more frustration when these expectations are not met.

Moreover, the idea that one can ‘command’ their peers in a condo corporation board to address something beyond their power through social media posts is not only unrealistic but also toxic. It undermines the spirit of collaboration and mutual respect that is crucial in any community.

In face-to-face meetings, detailed minutes, and action plans to resolve issues, we find the true essence of community building. It’s in these spaces that we can have constructive dialogues, understand each other’s perspectives, and work together towards solutions that balance everyone’s interests.

If we allow the Outrage Engine to drive our community, we risk creating an environment that is hostile, divided, and unproductive. Is this the community we want? If not, then it’s time to rethink our approach to communication and problem-solving in our shared living spaces.

Let’s strive for a community that values understanding over outrage, collaboration over commands, and steady work over drama. It might not be as instantly gratifying, but it’s a lot more rewarding in the long run.

written with GPT4.