Game in the Brain

 when I was listening to lectures on emotions the actionable take away was: 

1) I was “hyper rational” before but that was a mistake because it made me ignore other requirements, my own “Internal stakeholders”. (all requirements come from stakeholders, and to fail to factor stakeholders is to add on technical debt). the emotion cannot be ignored or not factored. It has to acknowledge – it has to be in the Assumptions and Project Management Plan and Charter. 
Take away: Collect requirements of your “Internal” Stakeholders. Address and Acknowledge Stakholders and Requirements. 

2) Regulation and Management of Emotions is a lot of Cognitive Behavior Therapy Strategies. Delaying tactics, Decomposition (both the PMBOK definition: to break things down to components), Using the CBT Triangle (thoughts, feelings, behavior) to Decopose – break things down and slow things down to Components you can process the way you break down a Problem to discrete small steps).  

Take away: Break everything Down to manageable to small winnable battles, discrete steps, or easy chunks. 

3) Being Present: Mindfulness – allow us to process things better by slowthing things down further. Our inability to process the emotion results from failing to factor the internal emotional stakeholders.  Our distractability – which is part of our emotions – can be accommodated in this Processing (1 – Internal stakeholders and 2 Decomposition).

Everything that prevents us from processing the emotion is 1) failing to identify stakeholders and collect its requirements and 2) further Decompositing the problem and requirements. Take away: We use Mindfulness to further SLOW DOWN – we ask ourself again the problem and how we feel. We repeat the stakeholder analysis and requirement gathering. We repeat the decomposition process. We end up slowing down and repeating ourselves until we are able to process it – we ar present and in the moment.